I've already talked about this in some of my previous "rants" but I feel like I still need to clarify a few things. I am not a man-hater or a man-eater for that matter (although I do love Nelly Furtado's song called "Maneater") but quite frankly I am fed-up with the quality of men I have had the misfortune of running across. My friends back home in the civilization known as New York City think that I have quite the selection of desirable future spouses up here in Nowhere's Land. Unfortunately for me, that is completely and utterly FALSE!
During my time here in chilly Ithaca, I have learned so much about the opposite sex and yet I feel like all of what I have learned is completely useless. The biggest problem plaguing our fair campus is the "Hook-up Culture." For the few non-college age folks who read this blog, "hooking up" refers to making out or having sex with someone NSA (no strings attached). This means that relationships aren't exactly a top priority around here. Guys are mostly interested in a "Wham.Bam.Thank you Ma'am" approach towards girls. Essentially men are only interested in the physical aspect of relationships. Sex and not much else. It's frustrating!!! I mean it's not like I walked in here expecting to find the love of my life right off the bat but the summer before coming to college older folks kept telling me "Awww college. That's where I met my husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend." So naturally I expected college to be filled with guys with whom I could possibly make some kind of connection with. So far my greatest guy related connections have been with my Best Guy Friend For Life (BGFF) Josh...who is proudly gay. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE Josh. He's honest and gets my complete craziness. If I were religious I would be constantly thanking God for him. And then there's Dan but he's a friend. Summary: No boy toys for Allie.
Back to the straighter end of things. In my year and a half at Cornell, I have learned not to trust men and that is superbly bad because I have enough trust issues as it is. So whenever I see a couple happily strolling around campus holding hands it leaves me wondering "How did they do it?" It's quite a mystery to me and my friends. A mystery we do still think is worth deciphering.
I agree, a lot of people are like ohh I met my spouse in college I even know a couple who met each other at Cornell. Idk, I like Cornell and it's selection of guys; It's just too much work to pursue them! I dated one dude at Cornell and then he's gone, like it's just not worth the trouble (ok, maybe it is but it certainly didn't feel that way at the time)
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